Capsulized history behind drama queen, manic depressive Mona Lisa with ADHD.
Meets future spouse at work, where she is perceived by co-workers as being excessive, demanding, and burdened by personal problems. Her son calls her at work repeatedly asking for money.
First of several suicide attempts on account of son's extensive delinquent behavior. Future spouse moves out, but she asks him to return.
Accompanies future spouse to his mother's passing New Year's Eve 2007, but in a hurry to return home to feed pets because son is unreliable.
Remarries February 1st, 2008.
Spouse encourages her to sell home for large profit, but she declines, not wanting to take son from friends and school.
Upside down relationship with manipulative and controlling son who goes through all of her savings, takes and runs up her credit cards, putting her and spouse into bankruptcy which spouse pays for
after she buys son several motorcycles, motorcycle and skateboard gear, laptops, exotic pets, the list is endless. Spouse is beside himself because she listens to her son instead of him.
Often vanishes in car locally when confronted by son's disrespectful and defiant behavior. He skips school frequently.
Leaves unannounced in the middle of the night on a trip to parents in Texas when son tells her to "walk in front of a car", a trip originally planned to make with spouse.
While in Texas, sheriff deputy sent to home in Florida by elder brother to check on son and spouse, concerned about son, but son assaults spouse with a friend over money.
Returns home and meets up with son first instead of spouse, hence blood is thicker than water. Every spouse's nightmare.
Son has girlfriend move in. So, who's in charge exactly?
More suicide attempts, and spouse only one at bedside in hospital after each event. Son calls once, but asking to purchase a gun.
She pursues electroconvulsive therapy for a few sessions. Seems to help some for a while.
Son finally moves out. This eventually comes after the next door cop warned he either would, or she'd die.
She keeps a record of everything spouse is accused of, repeating them relentlessly, and often turns them into put downs.
She gets equity loan, pays off car and pays down credit card debt from son's spending habits. He still asks her for money. Loan is refinanced, and eventually turns upside down.
She and spouse see conselors, one Christian counselor in particular who turns out to be a quack and subsequently apologizes to spouse.
Father passes away, and spouse accused of being insensitive when asked to cover return airfare after not being invited. As a result, spouse never meets either parent.
Brother-in-law is taken in, who gets in the middle by siding with her and backstabbing spouse together.
Spouse meets wealthy younger brother, retired from Navy and runs nuclear waste disposal plants, and he's a total jar head to her in front of spouse. Thinks spouse is depressed,
but didn't know him before he got married.
Her home that has become money pit is sold by short sale.
Hates Florida, so moves to North Carolina so she can have change in seasons. Spouse pays for entire move, and drives 26' loaded U-Haul arriving late at night in thick fog,
while she takes her time the next day in car.
Senseless bickering with spouse ensues on a routine basis, and he can't reason with her to save his life.
Warns spouse of side-effects from psychiatric medications, including dramatic mood swings.
Teams up with redneck single male neighbor from time to time, and backstabs spouse while sipping the neighbor's beer.
"House sits" for wealthy younger brother in Las Vegas for over a month while spouse has no say in the matter.
Psychiatric medications dramatically reduce intimate contact with spouse.
She and spouse sleep in different rooms because she does nothing about her sleep apnea, and snores loudly.
She gains weight from overeating due to depression, not caring about appearance, eating ice cream more often than yogurt.
10 year anniversary milestone is spent in front of the tube watching reruns of "My Three Sons" and "Monk". Spouse can't get a word in edgewise.
Spring features tornadoes, while winter has endless rain with little snow. Not exactly a match made in heaven.
After 4-years in NC, winter is too much for spouse, so she agrees to move back to Florida to be closer to granddaughter (and to "make husband happy").
Makes trip with spouse to Florida east coast to find a rental, where she has another "episode" and even attempts to run over spouse with her car.
Son and entourage escape hurricane "Irma" by driving to NC, and she insists that spouse gives him money from savings for upcoming move, and is not repaid.
She quietly inquires whether spouse can legally request financial support from her pension in the state of Florida.
Spouse makes trip alone to Florida west coast to find home rental within price range of marital combined income, finds one in local paper, even in the same neighborhood as granddaughter, secures it, then returns to NC.
On the way back to NC, spouse is pulled over on I-95 in SC. No ticket after several hours of harassment, but highway cops leave hood unlatched following a search of the vehicle. Spouse could've been killed possibly along with
countless others had the hood lifted all the way up while driving to the next exit to latch it, but she instead dwells on spouse's frustrated verbal reaction over the phone, accusing spouse of being an angry person.
She wants a separation upon spouse's return as some form of punishment, so he'll be stuck paying for rental on his own, and will be stranded without a car. Being closer to granddaughter no longer matters due to uncooperative son.
She goes berserk, threatening restraining order and suicide if spouse doesn't move out immediately.
Spouse has no choice but to move into rental that's paid for, until rent comes due again and he has to find something else he can afford on his own.
She refuses to give the only car between them to spouse, after spouse planned to secure a job in Florida, while she has no job. He cannot afford to buy one, even on credit. Her southern neighbor friend would've been more than glad
to drive her to store from time to time.
Son hates spouse, and lives in same neighborhood.
Minimal email only contact with nearly 64 year old despondent spouse, who's now chain-smoking, and only to tell him to go away after immediately posting on social media that she's separated, and starting "a new journey".
All of her online friends and brothers support her decision, ignorant of the events leading up to separation from spouse.
The consensus among the few local contacts spouse has, and among assistance organizations spouse contacted, is that spouse was set up for a fall based on the chain of events. "You're better off without her, after making your life difficult for so long",
but spouse is stranded, while she is even suspected of cheating on spouse due to her lack of communication, with no plan in place for rebuilding their Christian marriage.
Spouse completely cut off, in spite of spouse's efforts to reconcile with her, having endured NC for nearly 4 years, now back in Florida, but isolated and without a vehicle, while hers sits there unused in NC.
Spouse concedes that all is lost with her, and awaits divorce. Meanwhile, spouse faces still more difficulty due to fallout from the betrayal and desertion.